Random Rant...

         Hi!!! :D well im just so chipper today. You probably don't even want to hear me rant but ummmm.... ask me if i care! Had THE greatest time yesterday *blush*. i'll try to make this quick as possible...

         So i went to see Master yesterday. i left a little later than i wanted to but that was do to the fact that i had to run errands for my mom. When i got to His house, He hugged me and told me how beautiful i looked. i swear He always makes me feel so good about myself, always throwing some comments at me that make me blush. I wore leggings, black knee high boots, a grey and black leopard print shirt with a grey hat. I even wore a leopard print bra for Him, on account of thats among His favorite things to look at. i started braiding His hair, which by the way is growing in leaps and bounds. im pretty sure it took about an hour and a half but that could have been due to the fact that W/we were watching ummm.. Cross-Country Pimpin Pt. 4??? i think that's what it was. After an hour and a half of "nhamtalmbouts", "ya feel me's" "yaamzains" and "chuuuuurchs' ", W/we were off to The Cheesecake factory in Towson. Just wow. Service/Food was outstanding, except for the guy that opened the door to smoke bringing in all that gat damn cold air (we were seated right next to an exit door) it was good. My drinks made me wanna slap someone and both our waiters, Jontrell and "Touched by an angel" (we forgot his name... He was a ghey but he was soooooo sweet) were the most helpful people ever. Master enjoyed Himself and that is what's most important. W/we walked from the "premium" section of the mall were the Tiffany's, Louis Vuitton, and Crate and Barrel to the "common folk" side to go to Spencer's, which was boring.. they ain't have anything i liked. W/we left to go to our favorite chill bar/sushi spot, RA. i really don't want to talk about it but service sucked, drinks sucked... none of O/our favorite bartenders or waitresses were there... it was almost like it was a completely different spot. Made me wish we had stayed at The Cheesecake factory. I was very upset at that waste of money but Master told me to ignore it and He promised to make things up to me (Oh did He ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!). i had a "yeah right" face but as usual, He found a way to make me smile.

          W/we got back to the crib and wrestled around a bit... well alot. Its always fun when W/we spar and fuck each other up. He got the box (no pun intended) and told me to choose something to play with. Of course being the bitch that i am, i chose the leash. He commanded me to get on my knees and proceeded with our mini ritual for the placement of my collar around my neck. He bent me over the chair, made me poke my ass out, and spanked me with a belt until i used my safe word. i really wanted more mentally but my body couldn't take much more. He allowed me to lick, kiss, and suck on His neck, which i take pride in doing. i got on my knees at His command and sucked, licked, and kissed His Dick because He deserved it all. More touching, pulling, grabbing and i was commanded to get on the bed with my legs spread... *blush* im just gonna fast forward a few hours and let you know that a day later, my pussy is still throbbing. He is fuckin amazing. No one man should have all that power lol. Im not even over exaggerating right now. im really at loss for words. He was hittin places i never even knew i had. he was pulling my hair and whispering in my ear... wait..wait..

       im sorry... my flashbacks are so intense. im so lucky to be His property. W/we laid together for.. i don't even know how long just breathing together and engaging and maintaining O/our power exchange. Its awesome how W/we can initiate power exchange without even having sex. that is how strong O/our bond is. Its scary because its so good but even scarier ( in a good way ) because W/we are still growing and learning.. *sigh* give me a moment... Then i sat on His lap and he rubbed my clit until i squirted *faints*.

     ........ i have what bitches look for their whole lives... i wont let it slip away. Ever.

How much is too much?

         Hello all! How are you guys on this gorgeous day... ok I'm lying. It's hot as fuck- even my sweat is sweating lol. Wish it was legal to walk putside butt ass naked when the temperature reaches over 85 degrees. But anyways, enough of that. I have to be on my buisness with this post cuz Master gave me this task to do yesterday but I fell asleep.. I hope the ass whoopin consequences wont be bad.. He knew of my situation (-_-). Today's topic: Safewords...from my point of view.

         In the world of BDSM there is.. somewhat of a ..how should I say.. challenge to push your limits. In this "game" of Master/Dom/Top pleasing sub/slave/bottom and vise-versa, we can say that each party want to please the other as much as possible to the other's satisfaction. This includes physical and mental stimulation. Its in our nature as humans that we don't want to be the loser or the one that gives up; we dont want to appear inferior to anyone at anytime. In the world of BDSM, we often like to be pushed to our limits, maybe to see what our minds and body can with stand, to please our partners, or even to see our own mental/physical strengths. My philospohy is "Do what you can stand". Safewords provide us a way to our limits in a healthy way. The key is "safe, sane, and consensual". Living by this rule, one cannot go wrong. It simply means that both parties have the understanding that a scene can happen and insures that noone will be hurt or forced to sustain what they cannot handle. They should be a random yet uncommon word. Light bulb, jello, clouds, chicken, for example. Lol.. I know some of those example are kinda corny but they should be words that are totally irrelevant to sex. "Stop" is not good a great example because i know for me, stop means "please keep going". Safewords do not have to be actual words, they can be an action or gesture- slapping a surface with your hand 3 times in a row or maybe a consecutive cough.. once again maybe corny examples but never the less, im sure u catch what im saying. It is important that these safewords be address and discussed between both parties prior to a scene.

           The use of safewords should not be viewed as a bitch move or a sign of weakness . My Dom instructed me to utilize two words while we are in a scene: "I submit" and "Mercy". Lets say He is paddling me ( #dontjudgeme im a sucker for pain... it turns me on), "Mercy" is my way of saying "It hurts but dont stop i can handle a bit more." "I submit" is my way of saying "I've had enough and I would like if you stop please." All they while, He is keeping track of my response to his actions. He may find it best to stop even if i say keep going and if He feels is its necessary then so be it even if i disagree.  Failure to comply with a safeword can be grounds of non consensual activity and could be mentally and physically damaging. Sometimes our egos get the best of us. I am guilty of this: not using a safe word. This is a display of selflessness, not wanting to displease our partner(s). We go out of our way to prove ourself to show that we can with stand. As a Dom/ Master/ Top it is your responsibility to take charge and examine the body language of your sub. Its is your responsibility to ensure your sub is safe and unharmed. If you are flogging your sub and s/he starts to bleed but does not use a safeword, common sense will tell you to stop Actually it should not even get that far but u catch my drift.

          So in conclusion have fun and play safe people. Cheers!!