How much is too much?

         Hello all! How are you guys on this gorgeous day... ok I'm lying. It's hot as fuck- even my sweat is sweating lol. Wish it was legal to walk putside butt ass naked when the temperature reaches over 85 degrees. But anyways, enough of that. I have to be on my buisness with this post cuz Master gave me this task to do yesterday but I fell asleep.. I hope the ass whoopin consequences wont be bad.. He knew of my situation (-_-). Today's topic: Safewords...from my point of view.

         In the world of BDSM there is.. somewhat of a ..how should I say.. challenge to push your limits. In this "game" of Master/Dom/Top pleasing sub/slave/bottom and vise-versa, we can say that each party want to please the other as much as possible to the other's satisfaction. This includes physical and mental stimulation. Its in our nature as humans that we don't want to be the loser or the one that gives up; we dont want to appear inferior to anyone at anytime. In the world of BDSM, we often like to be pushed to our limits, maybe to see what our minds and body can with stand, to please our partners, or even to see our own mental/physical strengths. My philospohy is "Do what you can stand". Safewords provide us a way to our limits in a healthy way. The key is "safe, sane, and consensual". Living by this rule, one cannot go wrong. It simply means that both parties have the understanding that a scene can happen and insures that noone will be hurt or forced to sustain what they cannot handle. They should be a random yet uncommon word. Light bulb, jello, clouds, chicken, for example. Lol.. I know some of those example are kinda corny but they should be words that are totally irrelevant to sex. "Stop" is not good a great example because i know for me, stop means "please keep going". Safewords do not have to be actual words, they can be an action or gesture- slapping a surface with your hand 3 times in a row or maybe a consecutive cough.. once again maybe corny examples but never the less, im sure u catch what im saying. It is important that these safewords be address and discussed between both parties prior to a scene.

           The use of safewords should not be viewed as a bitch move or a sign of weakness . My Dom instructed me to utilize two words while we are in a scene: "I submit" and "Mercy". Lets say He is paddling me ( #dontjudgeme im a sucker for pain... it turns me on), "Mercy" is my way of saying "It hurts but dont stop i can handle a bit more." "I submit" is my way of saying "I've had enough and I would like if you stop please." All they while, He is keeping track of my response to his actions. He may find it best to stop even if i say keep going and if He feels is its necessary then so be it even if i disagree.  Failure to comply with a safeword can be grounds of non consensual activity and could be mentally and physically damaging. Sometimes our egos get the best of us. I am guilty of this: not using a safe word. This is a display of selflessness, not wanting to displease our partner(s). We go out of our way to prove ourself to show that we can with stand. As a Dom/ Master/ Top it is your responsibility to take charge and examine the body language of your sub. Its is your responsibility to ensure your sub is safe and unharmed. If you are flogging your sub and s/he starts to bleed but does not use a safeword, common sense will tell you to stop Actually it should not even get that far but u catch my drift.

          So in conclusion have fun and play safe people. Cheers!!