How much is too much?

         Hello all! How are you guys on this gorgeous day... ok I'm lying. It's hot as fuck- even my sweat is sweating lol. Wish it was legal to walk putside butt ass naked when the temperature reaches over 85 degrees. But anyways, enough of that. I have to be on my buisness with this post cuz Master gave me this task to do yesterday but I fell asleep.. I hope the ass whoopin consequences wont be bad.. He knew of my situation (-_-). Today's topic: Safewords...from my point of view.

         In the world of BDSM there is.. somewhat of a ..how should I say.. challenge to push your limits. In this "game" of Master/Dom/Top pleasing sub/slave/bottom and vise-versa, we can say that each party want to please the other as much as possible to the other's satisfaction. This includes physical and mental stimulation. Its in our nature as humans that we don't want to be the loser or the one that gives up; we dont want to appear inferior to anyone at anytime. In the world of BDSM, we often like to be pushed to our limits, maybe to see what our minds and body can with stand, to please our partners, or even to see our own mental/physical strengths. My philospohy is "Do what you can stand". Safewords provide us a way to our limits in a healthy way. The key is "safe, sane, and consensual". Living by this rule, one cannot go wrong. It simply means that both parties have the understanding that a scene can happen and insures that noone will be hurt or forced to sustain what they cannot handle. They should be a random yet uncommon word. Light bulb, jello, clouds, chicken, for example. Lol.. I know some of those example are kinda corny but they should be words that are totally irrelevant to sex. "Stop" is not good a great example because i know for me, stop means "please keep going". Safewords do not have to be actual words, they can be an action or gesture- slapping a surface with your hand 3 times in a row or maybe a consecutive cough.. once again maybe corny examples but never the less, im sure u catch what im saying. It is important that these safewords be address and discussed between both parties prior to a scene.

           The use of safewords should not be viewed as a bitch move or a sign of weakness . My Dom instructed me to utilize two words while we are in a scene: "I submit" and "Mercy". Lets say He is paddling me ( #dontjudgeme im a sucker for pain... it turns me on), "Mercy" is my way of saying "It hurts but dont stop i can handle a bit more." "I submit" is my way of saying "I've had enough and I would like if you stop please." All they while, He is keeping track of my response to his actions. He may find it best to stop even if i say keep going and if He feels is its necessary then so be it even if i disagree.  Failure to comply with a safeword can be grounds of non consensual activity and could be mentally and physically damaging. Sometimes our egos get the best of us. I am guilty of this: not using a safe word. This is a display of selflessness, not wanting to displease our partner(s). We go out of our way to prove ourself to show that we can with stand. As a Dom/ Master/ Top it is your responsibility to take charge and examine the body language of your sub. Its is your responsibility to ensure your sub is safe and unharmed. If you are flogging your sub and s/he starts to bleed but does not use a safeword, common sense will tell you to stop Actually it should not even get that far but u catch my drift.

          So in conclusion have fun and play safe people. Cheers!!

Bo-red .....

   Kinda bored so I was trying to find a way to spruce up my blog.. the only cool thing I found so far was my lil fish tank... Left click so that they can get their fish food :) Other than that.. blah.. Its a rainy cloudy day that started out all worng. I overslept, despite that fact I went to bed early last night. UGH.. Wanted to see Him today but.. it depends on if I will have to spend extra time here. Then it cold as hit in this office... Feels like Im stading outside in snow. I think Im gonna go to Starbucks and get me my fav Grande extra hot-whip-whip white chocolate mocha and drink the worries away.... Haha He sent me a funny text.. He always manages to make me smile even on the worst of days. I would like a nice long walk in the park with Him just blowing the breeze because we can.. *sigh and grin* He makes everything better.

So you think you have skills??

         Good mornting!! I hope all is well with all 2 of my followers on here.. haha its all good though. I'm at work kinda bored so why not blog right? I have to keep the momentum going. This past Sunday, I visited Borders book store and purchased two of the best books I've read in quite some time. Both books are by Robert Greene. I won't give the titles up.. I would think that if u are curious enough, you would do the research for yourself..I wont make it easier for you. But I will say that though I am still in the process of reading the books, I am definitely seeing the world a little differently and opened up my imagination a bit more.. So check that out. Might I add.. don't abuse what you think you can ultimately capable of.. It can destroy you. So on with the show...

          Today's main topic is to discuss ways that a submissive/slave can better themselves; How they can make themselves more purposeful. It can be rules to live by for beginners and a "tune-up" for veterans. There are 14 steps to becoming a better submissive. I will only go through 7 today and the rest at another time. These helpful hints and more can be found on www.submissiveguide.com/topics/defining-submission/ 

**"Pencils and paper students!!!"**

7 Things you can do to improve your submission

1. Move With Purpose- This includes posture. Move like you have somewhere to go but that does not mean rush like you are in a hurry. Be punctual yet utilize your use of body language while doing so. Be poetry in motion, pleasing to the eye and beautiful to watch. It has nothing to do necessarily with how beautiful or ugly unattractive your are. Your movements should always ooze with confidence that your are glad to serve your Master no matter what the task, even if its something you don't want to do.

2. Think before you speak- Yea i need to pay a10shun to this cuz my mouth always gets me fucked up punished :/  Basically show that you can communicate verbally, not necessarily with body language. Show your Dom that you can effectively state what your feeling. Make clear and concise statements. And if you really don't know what to say, just state exactly that or revisit the subject a little later. A real Dom will (should) respect the fact that you want to express yourself clearly and would allow you to do so. So basically, talk like you have some damn sense.

3. Enhance basic service-This kind of falls in line with rule #5. Whatever your do, add a twist to make it a little better. Maybe instead of cooking dinner and leaving it on the stove, you can pretend your a waitress and serve Him/ Her their food as if you both were in a restaurant. Ok.. maybe that idea is far fetched BUT im sure you catch my drift. Add the extra "Umph" to what ever you do.

4. Learn a new skill- This is where a sub can let their light so shine. Impress you Dom with something new you have learned or experience. Continue to show and prove that along with improving the life of Him/Her, you are also working on improving your life too. Learn something that maybe the both of you may like. Or you can pick up something that your Dom may not know about then introduce it to Him/ Her and hey, they may like it too. Always work on making yourself more marketable. I'm working on getting my "shit" together to pursue Portuguese and American Sign Language. More power to me!! *fist pump*

5. Kneel or sit at His/Her feet when they are busy- A good way to impress your Dom- be available when your not needed and always ready to answer call of service. If you know your Dom is going to be busy doing something, for example ummm.. Lets says H/She is exercising in the home in the gym (basement). H/She really does not need your immediate assistance for anything in particular while running on the treadmill but you can for example have a bottle of cool water, a towel to dry sweat, lil snacks, start a soothing bath waiting... Things like that. Kinda of going above and beyond but in a very subtle way. Its the little things that count and they will be noticed and remembered.

6. Ask for help from senior subs- Subs that have been offering service for a while are a great way to expand and enhance your knowledge. Most likely they have been through what you may be currently going through and can offer solutions to your questions. They can be somewhat of a mentor. But as always be careful of who you take advise from. Not everyone has your best interests in mind and we all know what that's like :/

7. Meditate on your submission- my Master always reminds me to do this, not just on the topic of submission but just to meditate in general. Pick a nice quite place, wait till bed time or wake up a few minutes early and think about your role. Think about your past, present, and how you would like to continue in the future. How you can make things better. Its a good way to recenter and realign your self with the universe and with yourself so that you can begin to improve on your overall lifestyle.    

           Whew hand cramp... guys I hope these tips were helpful!! I guess I have to actually go and work for my money now :( haha I kid, I kid. Peace and Blessings :-*

Everything has a purpose....

            So I guess this is my first OFFICIAL entry.. Thanks for passing through.. i currently have ONE follower... myself lol its all good though. Actually, the reason why i am doing this is because i want to better myself as a sub to my Master. Lately i have been not been as focused as i was when i first began this "thing W/we have". In the beginning things are always good, going the way one would want it to but after awhile you (not per se) get comfortable. You don't dress the same, have the same conversations.. the need to impress kinda goes out the window because you figure " Why work for something I already have?". Unfortunately that was an attitude that overcame me and the only time i decided to work harder was when i was threatened to be replaced, which should not be. But to make a long story short, I decided to do research on how I could become a better sub. I ran into http://www.submissiveguide.com/ which gave great info... (i will go into details about certain subjects on other posts) The one article that caught my eye was the one that said that a sub should keep a diary. Its a good way to state your feelings, every day occurrences, just random things. You could start by stating your purpose, why your in a bdsm relationship and what you expect to gain and what u are willing to give. A sub should either talk it over with their Master/ Dom for any specific directions on how to make entries or it can be somewhat of a surprise that can be given as a gift when complete to show your Master/ Dom how far you have came in your development as a person.

             So i decided to start this journey through the development of the blog. This blog will be my diary in which I will state my question comments and concerns... I find it easier to write then to talk about things which is really not a good trait because my Master get very frustrated when I don't communicate with him.. so hope fully this will help me to become better. There is so much I cant wait to talk about... but later for that.. i don't wanna get to excited then run out of topics :) 

~** Peace **~

This is a test..

*Tapping the mic* Is this thing on??? Lookin at how the colors function together... my Master likes green... trying to see how i can get it to blend without looking so.. over done... hmmm.. let me tweak it a bit more