Recap: BDsm 101

         BDsM 101: Forms of address.

Not so much for the Master/Dom but, for the bottom/slave. Its important that the bottom/slave show the utmost respect to their Top but utilizing the proper form of address as directed by their superior. This proves devotion, loyalty,humility and shows that the bottom acknowledges the Dominants partner's higher status. Most Tops require to be addressed properly at all times and may even have alternative exceptions depending on place and time.  

       

        BDsM 101: Importance of Honor, Friendship, Humility, and Integrity in a relationship


 A BDSM relationship is comprised of many separate entities working together to become one great power. It takes more than just the action of being  Dominant and submissive. There are building blocks that are a necessity to make a relationship work, whether you are taking part in this lifestyle or whether you are involved in a  "vanilla" relationship. Both Top/bottom parties must have trust in each other. Both parties must be totally honest or the relationship will fail. Hence, trust and respect will be established by having a solid friendship first. In my opinion, as eager as either or both parties may be to engage in a BDsM relationship, it should not be rushed. Take time to fully understand and study the way you function as individuals. This may take months or even years but i believe it will maximize the full potential of whatever one may seek to gain from the union. A bottom needs to express open and forthright to the Top any emotional struggles/concerns . Failure to do so may confuse the Top and there can be misunderstandings of what the bottom may really need. Avoid giving mixed signals. A  bottom should never respond to his/her Top's inquiries with what he/she thinks the Top want to hear but should only respond with honest and truthful responses to ensure that both parties are fully in sync with each other at all times. Failure to do so can break connections within the relationship and weaken the bond. On another note, a Top is not obligated to disclose any information to the bottom as long as whatever He/She does share is truthful. A bottom's behavior should reflect that of the Top's at all times. A sub should always be more than happy to complete tasks set for him/her by their Dom. A subs consistent attentiveness and positive attitude toward the Dom is what others judge the relationship by. Those on the outside looking in will be impressed at the devotion of the sub and the power of the Dom. A healthy relationship will never be ignored or passed off. It is admired even when you think no one notices. A successful relationship, especially one with a long history is a great accomplishment. It proves the fidelity of both parties, that one one is willing to give up on the other, to push for bigger and better things, to reach way beyond set goals.